I was recently asked by a subscriber on YouTube why I chose to bottle feed. The most simple answer to this question is, because I wanted to, but I thought I'd do a more in depth post about it.
Nowadays everywhere you look 'breast is best' and similar slogans are everywhere you look. Health visitors, midwifes and everyone you know rams breast feeding down your throat and makes out as if it's wrong to go against them. I remember being at my antenatal classes and feeling embarrassed to ask about bottle feeding, as it wasn't even mentioned once. I felt like I was doing something wrong, and should have been ashamed for deciding not to breast feed my baby. The midwife was making it very clear that formula was some kind of poison and that I shouldn't give it to my baby! This left me feeling pretty down about my decision, and I think some days I still feel this way, but I'm still glad I made the decision I did.
When I was younger all I remember my mum telling me was how much breast feeding hurt. She fed all 7 of us this way, and she's still adamant it was the worst part (she's a crazy super mum, she had all 7 of us without a smidge of pain relief!) haha. As well as this I'm a super shy person. I hate going to the shops by myself, let alone whacking out my boob in public haha; I know it can be done discretely but I still don't think I'd be comfortable with it.
These two points coupled with the fact I just don't think I wanted to do it, made me come to the decision that I was going to bottle feed, and I'm so glad I did! The first few days after labour I was pretty useless. An episiotomy along with high blood loss meant I felt absolutely horrific. Sitting hurt, moving hurt, god just existing hurt haha (drama queen haha!), and I was utterly exhausted after having severe pregnancy insomnia and then a 2 day labour. I honestly don't think I could have even managed breast feeding if I wanted to. Jack was my rock and helped out loads, especially with night feeds. If I wasn't bottle feeding he wouldn't have been able to offer this support, which I really needed.
Bottle feeding means Jack gets more bonding time with Indiana too. It's great that we can share the feeding (and the night feeds wahoo) equally as we both get time with her, and time to relax and rest. The same applies for other family members, so if we wanted to have a date night we could as she doesn't rely on me to feed her.
Don't get me wrong, just because I'm bottle feeding it doesn't mean I just want to leave her willy nilly. This is actually something that gets to me too. A lot of people think that just because I'm bottle feeding they can look after her. But in reality I still want her with me all the time, just like any other mummy haha!
I hate the whole breast or bottle debate. I think mothers need to be left alone to make their own choices, not made to feel bad for the decision they make. I'm happy bottle feeding, and others are happy breast feeding, and I think at the end of the day that's all that matters!
What's your opinion on the breast vs bottle debate?