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Breast Or Bottle: A Mother's Choice

Sunday, 20 April 2014


I was recently asked by a subscriber on YouTube why I chose to bottle feed. The most simple answer to this question is, because I wanted to, but I thought I'd do a more in depth post about it.

Nowadays everywhere you look 'breast is best' and similar slogans are everywhere you look. Health visitors, midwifes and everyone you know rams breast feeding down your throat and makes out as if it's wrong to go against them. I remember being at my antenatal classes and feeling embarrassed to ask about bottle feeding, as it wasn't even mentioned once. I felt like I was doing something wrong, and should have been ashamed for deciding not to breast feed my baby. The midwife was making it very clear that formula was some kind of poison and that I shouldn't give it to my baby! This left me feeling pretty down about my decision, and I think some days I still feel this way, but I'm still glad I made the decision I did.

When I was younger all I remember my mum telling me was how much breast feeding hurt. She fed all 7 of us this way, and she's still adamant it was the worst part (she's a crazy super mum, she had all 7 of us without a smidge of pain relief!) haha. As well as this I'm a super shy person. I hate going to the shops by myself, let alone whacking out my boob in public haha; I know it can be done discretely but I still don't think I'd be comfortable with it. 

These two points coupled with the fact I just don't think I wanted to do it, made me come to the decision that I was going to bottle feed, and I'm so glad I did! The first few days after labour I was pretty useless. An episiotomy along with high blood loss meant I felt absolutely horrific. Sitting hurt, moving hurt, god just existing hurt haha (drama queen haha!), and I was utterly exhausted after having severe pregnancy insomnia and then a 2 day labour. I honestly don't think I could have even managed breast feeding if I wanted to. Jack was my rock and helped out loads, especially with night feeds. If I wasn't bottle feeding he wouldn't have been able to offer this support, which I really needed. 

Bottle feeding means Jack gets more bonding time with Indiana too. It's great that we can share the feeding (and the night feeds wahoo) equally as we both get time with her, and time to relax and rest. The same applies for other family members, so if we wanted to have a date night we could as she doesn't rely on me to feed her.

Don't get me wrong, just because I'm bottle feeding it doesn't mean I just want to leave her willy nilly. This is actually something that gets to me too. A lot of people think that just because I'm bottle feeding they can look after her. But in reality I still want her with me all the time, just like any other mummy haha!

I hate the whole breast or bottle debate. I think mothers need to be left alone to make their own choices, not made to feel bad for the decision they make. I'm happy bottle feeding, and others are happy breast feeding, and I think at the end of the day that's all that matters!


What's your opinion on the breast vs bottle debate?

8 comments :

  1. Completely agree with you! People are so judgemental and then midwives wonder why so many women get PND/anxiety when they are partly to do with the reason why the parents feel this way because all health pros are too busy ramming it down parents throats that breast is best 24/7. I'm very shy too and feel nervous to even mention bottle feeding to my midwife in fear of being judged. Love watching your videos :) x

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    1. So glad there are people out there that agree :)! Breast may be best, but for some it isn't what they want to do, there is nothing wrong with bottle feeding. Thank you :) x

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  2. I feel the same! I follow you on youtube and instagram and I now bottle feed, after breastfeeding for like 2 weeks at the start.. the only reason i breast fed was because everyone was pretty much telling me it was the best thing to do. i was in agony, i actually started to really ahte feeding her... i finally gave in to the bottle and so glad i did! but the stigma of bottle feeding is unreal! i remember lying to people and saying i was still breast feeding even though i wasnt becasue i was like ashamed when i really shouldnt have been! I think people should be able to make their own decsion and not be judged! x

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    1. Aww hey :). I know exactly what you mean, it's such a taboo and it really shouldn't be. We should be proud that our babies are happy and healthy, whether they are breast or bottle fed :) x

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  3. I really wanted to breast feed and I really really tried but it was so hard after a long labour resulting in a c-section. I was so sore and found it very difficult to lift and hold Sophie and she had a tongue tie. In the end I gave up. It was a very hard decision for me at the time but I really don't regret it and actually wish I had made it sooner. Sophie and I were both so much happier once she was bottle fed. I hate the stigma around it. I'm a teacher and we aren't allowed any bottles or anything in role play areas in early years classrooms because it goes against the 'breast is best' message from the government. I also hate how shops aren't allowed to offer any points or deals on baby milk! It's such a personal decision that women should be able to make without being judged! X

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    1. Totally agree with everything you said! It's all down to personal choice, and I'm glad you made the choice that made you both happier :) xx

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  4. I breastfed for 10 months but used formula alongside the whole time. I wanted to exclusively breastfeed but then I realised how hard it was (I just presumed it would be natural and easy) and I'm so pleased that formula exists because I genuinely believe I would've gone mad if it didn't exist!

    I am hugely pro-breastfeeding and I could cry when I think about the fact we stopped but I still don't get why everyone is all "breast is best" when so few people actually exclusively breastfeed. I only know one person whose baby has never had any formula.

    I don't agree that formula feeding should be treated like a dirty secret because it's a reality that most everyone uses it to one degree or another.

    xx

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  5. Good on you for speaking so open and honestly about this. I have been lucky that breastfeeding has worked out for me with my three (you can add me to your list of friends whose babies have never had formula!), but I have had lots of friends who have been quite upset by firstly not being able to or wanting to, and then being judged by people and tutted at in public. I hate this kind of attitude. It is terrible! People do not have a right to judge. One friend had to have a double mastectomy. She is not physically able to bf. Another had thyroid problems which meant she genuinely wasn't producing enough milk. I also have friends who simply do not want to bf - and that is absolutely their decision. The most important thing is happy baby and happy mummy. x

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