I am a 'Shouty Mum'.


I'm a shouty mum.

There, I said it.

But does that make me a bad mum?

I see so many things these days discussing the different types of mums. What's right and wrong. How being a certain 'type' makes you either a good or a bad mum. Shouting is something that is definitely frowned upon. I even saw in a recent parent group someone said that there was never any need for it.

But here I am, admitting that I'm a shouty mum.

Now don't get me wrong. I don't scream and shout at my children every second of everyday. We nearly always get down to their level and explain things. I'll ignore 'naughty' behaviour if I think it's just harmless. But personally I do think there are times where shouting is necessary.

If they're in danger.

To shock them.

Honestly, sometimes it's just because they're driving me bloody mad!

I think at the end of day it does depends on your upbringing. I was brought up this way, and I'm doing okay, but I know this isn't the case for everyone. I don't think being shouted out once in a while is going to 'damage' my children, or leave any long term effects. But that's just my opinion.

So there. I'm a shouty mum. But that doesn't make me a bad mum. We're all just doing the best we can.


  1. I'm with you on this one! I really try my hardest not to shout all the time, to get down to their level, give them warnings, time outs. But in danger, when they are hurting each other or after they've had every other form of telling off I shout.
    It definitely doesn't do them any harm! Xxx

  2. I shout way more then I ever thought that I would. I have found I do it so much more since having my son & having two close in age. I normally shout to stop them fighting or doing dangerous or naughty things as it makes them stop xx

  3. I'm a shouty mum too!!! Sometimes I feel bad that I am, but it does serve it's purpose at times. Xxx

  4. Hahaha!! I love this! I'm a shouty mum sometimes too and hell no it doesn't make us bad mums. Just normal ones ;) xx

  5. I'm a shouty mum too! Mainly because my children don't listen to the word I say and by the 30th repeat in my nice friendly voice I just need to shout to actually get through to them. This may be all wrong but I don't think I'm traumatising them :-)

  6. I think you just have to do what you have to do to get through. Are your kids happy, safe and well looked after? Yes? Then it's all good :) x

  7. You rock lady, i love the sport. I'm a shouty mum sometimes too and it does get me down but I know it doesn't mean i'm a bad person it's just...life. Well done for writing this xx

    1. haha i love this post not the sport. Hell no

  8. I'm a shouty mum too, sometimes it seems it's the only way to get them to sop and take notice.

  9. I don't usually shout with Zach, but I have done a few times because sometimes I just lose my calm. I'm sure it will increase as he gets older, and has more understanding of good/bad behaviour! xx

  10. I'm a lazy mum. I worry that I don't give my boys enough attention even when they're being self-sufficient....
    Parenting always comes with such guilt doesn't it?! Nobody's perfect, you shouting once in a while doesnt mean you love them any less! You're doing an awesome job xxx


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